Emily Clarke

Advice for a Fulfilling Long Term Queer Relationship

Relationships don't just last because you want them to last, and two people don't stay together just because they promise to stay together. For a relationship to work, you've got to put in the work. Here are a few tips you might find in free lesbian chat rooms to get you on your way to that long-sought long-term relationship.

Maintain An Individual Identity

Avoid losing yourselves in each other. The idea of you and your partner's identities "merging" and you two becoming one is very romantic, but it's not reality and it's not healthy. It's called codependence, and it can lead to stagnation, in life and the relationship, which can lead to resentment and hurt. To avoid this, make sure to each maintain your own separate individual identities in addition to your relationship as a couple. This will also allow you to keep working on becoming a better "you" for your partner.

Be Sexually Honest

Sex is a big part of a long-term love relationship, unless one or both parties is asexual to some degree, in which case it still is by its lack or absence. In either case, it's essential to discuss it openly and honestly with one another. Be clear about your sexual role and your sexual desires and preferences. Be up front about it right from the start of your relationship. That way, if you discover you're not sexually compatible, you can save yourself the trouble of entering an incompatible relationship now and avoid a whole lot of heartache later.

Define Relationship

Not everybody in free lesbian chat rooms defines the word "relationship" or its terms the same way. Make sure you and your partner are both on the same page about the definitions you're using. What do you call each other? Are you monogamous, and what does that mean? How much are you telling other people about your relationship, and what are you telling them? How do you want to interact in public, such as regarding holding hands and other public displays of affection? There are no right or wrong answers to these questions, as long as you're both in agreement on them.

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Emily Clarke writes about social networking apps and LGBT community. You can find her thoughts at LGBTQ assistance blog.