Alester Brown

Tips for Dealing With a Homophobic Family

Even though people in the LGBTQ community are more accepted now than at virtually any time in history, there may still be occasions when you may face opposition to your sexuality. This is especially challenging when this opposition comes from a family member.

Many LGBTQ people who face homophobia from a family member find that the situation leads to strained relationships. This can be detrimental for anyone, but it can be especially tough in a society largely dominated by heteronormative foundations.

Consider Family Counseling

LGBTQ counseling for families often involves both the LGBTQ individual and their family members meeting with a counselor to discuss problems within the family unit. During LGBTQ counseling, you and your family members will likely be encouraged to engage in an honest discussion about your feelings. This has the potential to lead to breakthroughs as a lack of communication is often at the heart of many conflicts.

Try to Understand Why They Feel the Way They Do

As difficult as it may be, you might find that it's beneficial for the situation as a whole to try to understand where a homophobic family member is coming from. Perhaps that person grew up in an era or area where LGBTQ lifestyles were frowned upon.

Perhaps they aren't knowledgeable about why you feel the way you do or how you came to the realization that you feel that way. There is often a reason for homophobia, and allowing someone to explain in their own words why they feel a certain way can open up more doors toward acceptance.

Try Not to Argue

Just like a family member can't "turn you straight", you aren't going to "make" them feel a certain way. You can persuade a family member to see things from your point of view, but arguing with the intention of changing someone's mind or attitude is usually a non-starter.

Instead, try to remain calm and remember that this is your life. You ultimately have the final say in how you handle your feelings, so don't get baited into an argument in which hurtful comments can be made which can't be taken back. After all, despite opposition, this is still your family.

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Alester Brown writes about physiotherapy. She advises people on health care, online therapy, anxiety discussion groups & depression message boards. You can find her thoughts at LGBTQ community blog.