Emily Clarke

Why Queer Stereotypes are Harmful

Queer acceptance and visibility are far better than it was decades ago. It's easier than ever to meet others, look through lesbian personals, and connect with queer folks from all walks of life.

But make no mistake: Things aren't perfect yet. Queer stereotypes still run rampant, causing harm to those who are living proudly and those who have to keep their identities hidden.

More Than Just Presentation

Stereotypes imply that queer identities are nothing more than presentation. Contrary to what some believe, gender identity and sexual orientation are not easily identifiable. Being queer isn't a characteristic.

Many ignorant people like to fall back on dates stereotypes like limp wrists, lisps, and other so-called "gaydar tells." But the truth is that LGBTQ+ people are complex!

Identifying as queer is just one piece of a massive puzzle, and queer people express themselves in many ways. Relying on stereotypes dwindles complex people into a handful of falsehoods with no basis in reality. It puts them in a box when LGBTQ+ people want nothing more than to break barriers and live freely.

The Smothering Nature of Stereotypes

Unfortunately, stereotypes can hamper a person's progress and make it difficult for them to live life confidently. Even those with the best intentions can inadvertently set people back by falling back on dated language and untrue stereotypes.

Queer people sometimes feel like they have to act a certain way to be accepted by the community. For example, you might see lesbian personals playing into stereotypes or gay men feeling the need to be the "token gay" of their friend group.

Ultimately, that way of thinking damages one's progress and psyche. It's a form of pressure that does nothing but appease the people around them.

The same applies to queer people who can't come out due to safety concerns. Those stereotypes force closeted LGBTQ+ individuals to hide their identities every day, pulling back on their true identities to avoid drawing too much attention. The more that we, as a society, push those stereotypes, the harder it is for people in more conservative areas to live their truths.

A Crisis of Validation

Stereotypes have no place in our modern world. They do nothing but invalidate people who don't fit into those molds. Whether you're queer yourself or looking to be a supportive ally, the best thing you can do is leave the harmful stereotypes behind.

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Emily Clarke writes about social networking apps and LGBT community. You can find her thoughts at lesbian aesthetic blog.